In an effort to "Be a better date" I am trying the online dating thing again. It's a been a whole tsunami of sadness over here in Jessicaland lately. So to try and heal my broken heart and move on with my life I'm trying it out. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Match count so far: 49 Yes, 49.
There are apparently 49 males in a 30 mile radius that match me 29 different ways. Yeah I can't imagine it either. Last time I did this particular site I only ever got 3 matches in 30 days, I've been on this since 1/2/12 and I've gotten 49! I feel so popular!!! (yay me!)
I have of course closed a few and had a few close on me. That's expected. I talking with 12 and 27 that I've done nothing with and and obviously 10 that have been closed. Now the communication is all structured and secure so I'm not actually directly speaking with any of them. So far there are only 2 out of the 12 that haven't stalled out, the rest are sort of in a holding pattern. Perhaps they have as many matches as I have and are wading through them like me. I have an app on my Droid which makes it easier to check in and/or obsess over during the work day.
I don't have an opinion one way or another about any of my matches, except for the ones I decided to close. I am struggling with the be breezy and open and interested without being truly interested and attached. I don't know that I'm the type of girl who can date multiple fellas at one time, but I'm willing to give it a try.
A good friend of mine asked today how I was going to handle all these men. I said: One at a time. She laughed.
I had fun at online dating and for the record, I met my NOW husband on Yahoo personals 8 years ago. :) It DOES work as long as you are honest and really search out the person. I used a checklist system. Talked to them online, wrote down my answers. When I felt comfortable to go out and meet them, I also met them wherever and in a public wide open place. When we met, I drilled them on my checklist! haha I even told them I had one. A lot of them failed by lying. Assholes! :) But eventually it worked. My husband found ME, not me him. He was not in my "list" because he was shorter than my minimum height! haha
ReplyDeleteHave fun with it gf! Be careful! There are A LOT of kooks out there! Love the blog btw, I subscribed as I said I would... now have fun with it!
I've done the online dating a few times. Had some success, but obviously not leading to marriage. I'm just taking my time. I'm defintely non plus about it which is good and bad. It will be fun to meet some new people. A check list is a good idea, I need to really sit down and make my list. Can't find what you want if you don't know what you want right?
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