On 12/30/11 I decided to deactivate my Facebook account. I know, crazy right? I had my heart broken a couple weeks earlier and it had just become a place of despair for me. I could see everyone's lives, children, husbands, wives etc... loving, living, enjoying life and here I was devastated and broken. It just wasn't where I wanted to be. I did not want to see everyone's New Year's Plans or what have you while I was so sad. It just became a constant reminder of what I had not achieved. I had already limited my posts and had not really signed into it since Christmas, so I felt it was time to say goodbye for now. I always use New Year's to sort of evaluate where I am in life, where I'm headed, what I want for the future. This year it came down on me like a ton of bricks that I had wasted the last 17 years, just wished them away.
So now it's been a week and I have to say I really don't miss Facebook. Sure there are some things and some people I miss. But overall I don't miss the anxiety that it seemed to be causing me. I'm much happier and have more time on my hands now that I've broken up with Facebook. I will probably go back eventually, but right now I'm enjoying the absence.
I've been seeing other social networking sites since my breakup with Facebook. I find Twitter is far more fun when you actually interact with people. I've also been checking out Google+. It's definitely different but I feel more freedom there in some ways.
I was married for 16 years & one of the first things that happen was he unfriended me on FaceBook, it sucked & I deactivated my account for awhile. A year & a half later I am not much of a Facebooker but figured its a good way to keep on with friends.
ReplyDeleteI can understand were your coming from, after 16 years I am going back to school, moved my home, single mom, working full time & my husband is now my friend. Life changes & so do we, hopefully for the better.
I did the unfriending first, then quickly regretted my hasty decision but then realized I just wanted to creep and decided I need to deactivate for a while.
ReplyDeleteI need to do some things for me and figure out some things and work towards improving myself. Life certainly does change and always without notice.
Kudos to you for working towards a better you for you and your children and for being able to be friends with your ex. :-)